Five good rules for multi-generational living

No 1 respect each others private space. Living in close proximity after a long time can be quite a challenge.

Having separate front doors, if logistically possible can be symbolic in maintaining a sense of personnel space.

No2 Discuss finances. If an adult child is financing the house, their parent can feel beholden.

Equally if the parent has contributed to a bigger hop use their child may feel indebted.

No 3 Work out who does what. Divide up the chores as much as practically possible so no one gets resentful.

And don’t assume a granny living in the annex means free child care!

No 4 Have a conversation about what care is needed, rather it being arranged without discussion or consent.

No 5 Keep talking.

Don’t bottle up your grievances: arrange regular times to sit down and give everyone a chance to express their opinion.

This list was taken from a Daily Telegraph article worth reading about How To Live With An Ageing Parent [and not go mad] 26 March 2017.